Wisdom for the practice of leadership

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of using your imagination.

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Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of using your imagination.

My toddler granddaughter loves to play doctor. She has a toy medical bag with all the necessary equipment that a doctor might use, and often likes to pretend that one of her dolls (or one of her family members) is sick or injured, and she needs to help them get better. She will pull different tools out of the bag so that she can check everything and provide the right treatment, then pronounce that the injured toy, or person, is all better.

In one particular instance, she saw that I had a scrape on one of my knuckles and exclaimed, “Oh no, it hurts!” So, she had me lie down on the floor so she could treat me, and this treatment included a full physical. She checked my blood pressure, tapped my knees with a hammer to check my reflexes, looked in my ears and nose and throat, put a Band-Aid on my knuckle, and listened to my heart with her toy stethoscope. As she was “listening” to my heart, she started, saying, “thump, thump, thump,” but then that changed to “squeak, squeak, squeak.” She told me I had a mouse in my heart, and she had to chase the mouse out of me, so she got some cheese for the mouse to follow.

I am grateful that she is developing the character trait of empathy, but that’s not the primary thing I want to point out with this illustration. What I want to emphasize is the imagination that was at work, on two different levels. First was the role-play as she was pretending to be a doctor. She was doing the things that she imagined a doctor would do, and trying to put herself into that role. And she was doing it with sincerity and enthusiasm. Beyond that, she was also thinking outside of the normal by bringing a mouse problem into the checkup.

Those are two things that we ought to be doing in the leadership of our organizations. First, is that we ought to role-play. I don’t mean by that that we need to pretend to be someone we are not, but rather that we put ourselves in other people’s shoes and try to see things from their perspective. People have different experiences and perspectives, and it is beneficial for us to understand that because that will help us have a better picture of the circumstances, issues, and needs. Second, we ought to explore different ways of thinking about things. It’s easy for us, without realizing it, to see things the way that we always have, through the lens that we have always used. But removing that lens and looking at things from a different angle, even one that might not make sense, can change our perspective and our options.

And that’s the lesson on leadership from this little thing in life, from this story of my granddaughter, checking my heart with her toy stethoscope, and hearing a mouse. Too often, our vision is limited because we’re not seeing things from another perspective, and we do what we’ve always done without thinking differently. Sometimes, we need to set aside our normal thought process, see from someone else’s point of view, and be willing to use some imagination and think creatively. In order to grow both personally and organizationally (and, in some cases, find your way past a difficult challenge), you need to be ready and willing to use your imagination.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of serving quietly.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the value of serving quietly.

In my first school leadership role, we had built a new school building that also had shared use with the church that owned the school. Within a few months, teachers were communicating a frustration with me about having to clean up their classrooms every Monday morning, needing to put all the desks back in order, which was taking away from their time to prepare for the start of the week. I encouraged the teachers to have a servant’s heart in response to this situation, but I also passed on their frustration to the church leadership, and asked if we could give the Sunday school teachers some instruction on how to put the rooms back in order when they were done with the children’s classes on Sunday. It seemed like a simple request to me, so the reply I received was unexpected. I was informed that the building was owned by the church, that many of the church members had funded it, and that they were volunteers, so they needed to be able to use the room how they wanted to on Sundays without being obligated to extra work, and the teachers could straighten the rooms up on Monday mornings.

This put me in the middle of a dilemma (which I eventually learned was not an uncommon occurrence in school leadership). The church leadership, and by extension, the Sunday school teaching volunteers, did not see the opportunity they had to be able to serve the school teachers, and the teachers did not see the opportunity to serve children coming to church. Instead, each was focused on their own needs. I was in the middle, with the responsibility of resolving this conflict well.

So, my wife and I started taking the kids to the grocery store after church on Sunday to get a loaf of French bread, some deli meat and cheese, and chips, and then head back to the church. By the time we got there, everyone would be gone, and we would sit in the school cafeteria and have lunch together. Then, along with our two kids who were in elementary school at the time, we would set up all the classes for school the next day. Neither side knew we were the ones going through the building every Sunday afternoon to make sure all the desks were arranged, and that everything was in order.

To this day, my children, who are adults, still talk about that time as a great family memory. They remember having French bread sandwiches and serving together as a family, and finding joy in knowing that we were meeting a need, and no one knew that it was us. In their eyes, it was a secret mission that took care of people, and they had the joy of knowing that teachers would walk into their classrooms at the start of the week with everything ready but without knowing my kids had made sure it was so. They also remember the joy that came because we were serving together and making it a valuable time for our family.

These are wonderful lessons on leadership from this little thing in life, from Sunday afternoons with my children quietly putting classrooms back in order. First, they highlight not just the value of serving the needs of others, but the importance of doing it for the right reason. You serve not for your own praise or glory, but for the well-being of others. Second, they highlight the heart and attitude that should be present in you. If you have the right attitude, you get to experience the joy of being a blessing, especially knowing that your honor should come from God and not from others. So I encourage you to pursue this mindset. If you are a leader, you are also a servant. Look for opportunities to serve, but do it quietly, and experience the joy of seeing the blessing it is for those who experience the results of what you have done.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about trusting God in our circumstances, even when we don’t understand.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about trusting God in our circumstances, even when we don’t understand.

One of the things that my wife and I have enjoyed doing together over the years of our marriage has been watching TV series. What kind of series that is will change, depending on the season or what is catching our interest, but we enjoy watching them together. For example, my wife has long been a Trekkie, so at one point in time, we watched through the entire original Star Trek television series, and then all of the Star Trek movies. Sometimes we enjoy watching animé, so Naruto was another show that we watched all the way through. And of course, there were all the Marvel movies in chronological order, and the Star Trek movies and series, including the animated ones, also in chronological order. More recently, we really enjoyed watching a Korean drama called “When Life Gives You Tangerines,” and thoroughly enjoyed it and would recommend it. Currently, we are watching the Waltons series. I know it’s an older series, but we also enjoy watching through television series from that era, like The Andy Griffith Show or Hogan’s Heroes. A brief scene in the Waltons reminded me of the important lesson I am sharing today.

In the final episode of season 1, Mrs. Walton (Olivia) was stricken with polio. As the family wrestled with her illness and with the potentially crippling effects, the pastor of their church showed up to visit. On the porch, as he was leaving, he asked Grandma Walton how the children were doing, and she said that they were having a hard time understanding how this could happen to their mother. The reverend replied, “Me too.” Grandma said, “You, a man of God?”, to which he answered, “I accept His ways, ma’am, but I don’t always understand them.”

This made me think about the challenges my wife has had over the years with cancer and its related effects. Her health had been deteriorating over many years, with changing diagnoses from different doctors over that time. But then a new doctor was convinced that something else was the source of much of the issue and began pursuing answers until it was discovered that my wife had neuroendocrine cancer, with a primary tumor in her left lung. The result was a thoracotomy to remove her lung and to start treatments for the effects of that cancer. During that experience, especially early on, we had to wrestle with the same truth that the reverend did on the Waltons. We had to decide if we were gonna trust what God was doing even when we didn’t understand.

In retrospect, I can see that God has blessed and used us through that experience for a purpose. We have seen His hand at work using this to minister to others, and He has blessed us abundantly, even in the worst of it. So, even when we didn’t understand, it was the right thing for us to trust Him because He still knew what He was doing. It’s the same as when a parent gives a child boundaries for their good, even when their children don’t understand why at the time.

And that’s the lesson on leadership from this little thing in life, from this brief scene in the final episode of season 1 of the Waltons. As Steven Curtis Chapman sang, “God is God and I am not.” It is like looking at a woven rug from the backside, where all you see is the tangled mess of carpet fibers, while God is on the other side and sees the completed beautiful picture. I don’t see the whole picture from my perspective, so the only question I have to answer is whether or not I trust what God is doing, even when I don’t see the purpose. I don’t know what challenges you may be experiencing at the moment, but I hope that your relationship with God is such that you can trust His ways even when you don’t understand.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the mindset of trying again when you fall down.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about the mindset of trying again when you fall down.

As a parent and a grandparent, I have loved watching the personalities and characteristics of my children and then my grandchildren develop. I can see things in my own kids as adults that were reflections of their behaviors as children. It’s fun to now see characteristics early in my grandchildren, and wonder what that will look like later down the road. For example, when my grandson was about three, he was trying to do something that was frustrating, but he kept at it, and finally was able to do it. When he did, he exclaimed, “I am good at doing hard things.“ I’m looking forward to seeing how that mindset will help to shape him when he is older. More recently, my granddaughter was building with blocks, and what she was building fell over. She looked at it, smiled, and said, “Try again!“ What a wonderful way to approach failure and defeat.

I have seen my granddaughter express the same response in lots of circumstances, almost as if it is her two-year-old mantra. She keeps trying things, even things that are risky and new, and frequently fails the first time, but always says, “Try again!” She has even said the same thing to me when I’ve dropped something or something didn’t work right. How encouraging it is to hear that kind of response to struggle from a little child!

Proverbs speaks to that mindset when it says that a righteous man will fall seven times and rise again (Prov. 24:16). I want you to notice that this verse points out that even a good person will fail, and likely more than once. What distinguishes that person, though, is the response to failure. It’s the response of getting back up and trying again. It’s learning from the failure, developing your skills, growing in strength and ability and understanding, and continuing to improve until you’ve overcome. As the saying goes, “when you fall off the horse, get back in the saddle.“

That’s the lesson on leadership from this little thing in life, from my granddaughter responding to struggle and difficulty and failure with a simple “try again!“ We will face hardship, we will face difficulty, we will fail or mess up. One of the most important things that matters in those circumstances is our mindset and attitude. It’s whether or not we will let those circumstances defeat us, or whether we will respond to those circumstances by seeing them as a learning experience from which we can grow, and try again with enthusiasm. So, if you fall down, try again!

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about some things we can learn from facing our fears and helping others to do the same.

Here is the link to the podcast.

Life is full of examples that teach us lessons. That’s why stories and illustrations make learning so much more effective. When a story can be used to illustrate or demonstrate a valuable lesson, the story makes it much more understandable, relatable, and memorable. With that in mind, I want to take some time to do just that – share examples of circumstances and stories experienced in everyday life which illustrate leadership lessons that we can learn and apply. This is one of those examples, and it teaches us about some things we can learn from facing our fears and helping others to do the same.

We had taken our grandchildren on a dinosaur-themed trip that included hiking at Dinosaur Valley State Park in Glen Rose, Texas. We were headed out to the park in the morning, while it was still somewhat cool (we live in Texas, after all), to do some hiking. Included in that hiking was taking the path down to the river to see fossilized dinosaur footprints in the riverbed. When we arrived at the best spot in the park to see the dinosaur tracks, the good news was that the river was low enough that we would be able to see the tracks. The bad news was that the tracks were on the other side of the river, and we had to cross a path of stepping stones across the river to get there.

One of my grandchildren was eager to race across the stone path, while the other was initially too afraid to go. To that grandchild, it looked too intimidating, fraught with danger and the likelihood that we would fall into the river. So I sat with that grandchild on a rock while the others stepped across on the stones and marveled at the dinosaur tracks. Meanwhile, I was having a conversation about the fears vs the thrill of what we could see if we faced those fears. Eventually, with a deep breath, we crossed the river with the condition that I was holding this child as we crossed. When we got to the other side, two things happened: joy at seeing real dinosaur tracks, and a boost in confidence that led to boldness for the rest of the day.

I have my own fears that I have had to face, and sometimes I have done that well, but other times I have not. At times, I have done my best to avoid the situations that caused me fear, but often fear-inducing circumstances are unavoidable. Being faced with those fears will then cause me to be anxious, or timid, or upset, and will affect my actions in the moment. At the same time, when others are confronted with fears that I think are irrational, it’s easy for me to minimize their fears. The reality is that everyone has fears, and if we are going to lead them (and ourselves) well, there are three things I learned in this experience with my grandchild that can help us with this:

  1. It is important to exhibit patience and gentleness. Regardless of whether or not the fear is unfounded, or even irrational, the fear is real to that person. Rather than forceful confrontation or belittling, they need compassion and a safe context to face that fear.
  2. One of the best things we can do is to walk with them in the process rather than trying to simply remove the cause of the fear. There is a lot that can be learned by facing fears, so removing the source of it can limit opportunities for growth. Instead, walk with them through it. King David expressed this perspective about God in Psalm 23 when he said, “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me.”
  3. ‭‭When a fear has been successfully faced, confidence grows. It may be that they realize that it wasn’t as fearful as they thought it would be, or that they feel the empowerment from having faced and conquered. Regardless, the result is personal growth and increased confidence.

That’s the leadership lesson from this little thing in life, from helping a grandchild conquer a fear. We all have fears that can hinder our progress, as do the people we lead. Yes, you can “throw them into the deep end of the pool,” but that’s not the same thing as helping someone confront their fears and grow in the process. Step alongside them with patience and gentleness, and walk with them through the process of navigating those fears. When you do, they will grow.